What To Do When You Are In An Abusive Relationship
We face many obstacles and problems in our lives. There is no other way out. What cannot be cured or solved must be tolerated and endured; the reason why a lot of people give up hope. This makes life miserable.
When you get married and happened to have an immature husband, how can you deal with your circumstance? People like them are short-tempered and easily angered even with the slightest reason. Why do they do this? It's because an immature husband is a man who isn't even trying to mature into handling his relationship with his wife in a more adult manner.
Nothing is more damaging to your confidence and self-esteem than being in an emotionally abusive relationship. Unlike physical abuse which rears its ugly head in dramatic outbursts, emotional abuse can be more insidious and elusive. In some cases, neither the abuser nor the victim are fully aware it's happening.
Your relationship with your partner is severely damaged as a result of the ongoing, pervasive emotional abuse. You may be depressed or have other mental health issues as a result of this ongoing mistreatment. Your self-esteem and confidence are almost nonexistent, as your abuser has systematically diminished your very being.
Emotional abusers are bullies. But once you reclaim your power and learn to set your boundaries, they'll know that you're not going to take it anymore. The victim of the abuse quite often doesn't see the mistreatment as abusive. They develop coping mechanisms of denial and minimizing in order to deal with the stress. But the effects of long-term emotional abuse can cause severe emotional trauma in the victim, including depression, anxiety, and post traumatic stress disorder.
Victims of very severe emotional abuse are often afraid to defend themselves. They fear that their partner will leave or make things worse without realizing that once they draw a line and demand a more mature relationship, the abusive person will have to make a choice -- either change the behaviors or risk losing you.
Emotional abuse can be a sneaky killer of the spirit. You are in a stage of denial because chances are that you don't want to see the signs of an abusive relationship because you desperately want to believe that your abuser actually loves you. Gradually, emotional abuse from someone who is supposed to love you will deprive you from joy, your sense of well-being and even your mental health, driving you into paralyzing self-doubt, shame and possibly suicide.
Don't wait for that to happen. Never sacrifice yourself for the sake of a one-sided relationship. Act now while you still have the time to get back to your old self.
Abusive partners tend to control their environment to avoid feelings of failure and inadequacy. The strategy of trying to control others fails to satisfy them for the simple reason that the primary cause of their anxiety is within them because it springs from either a heavy dread of failure, or fear of isolation, and deprivation.